Avoiding Criticism in Thailand while Achieving Success

Thai Culture
Jan 26
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In Thai culture, criticism is avoided. As a result, Thailand is often criticized! According to the critics, the Thai people’s avoidance of criticism is stifling the kingdom’s growth into a first world country and economic powerhouse like Japan and South Korea.

However, the rulers of Thailand (stretching back to King Mongkut of the mid- 19th century) have always believed that social harmony trumps economic growth and technological advancement. The modernization of Thailand began with King Mongkut’s embrace of Western innovations during the 1850s. His stewardship earned him the nickname “The Father of Science and Technology” in Siam.

But the spiritually wise king (who prior to assuming the throne was a monk by the name of Vajiranano Bikkhu) knew well of the downsides of Westernization, stating that farangs often were filled with anxiety and sleeplessness — unable to smile in the same way that Thais famously do.

Thai Students — Thai students and workers continue to improve through modeling and competition.

How to Improve Thai Workers & Students

While Western countries trumpet the virtues of constructive criticism, psychologists have long noted that people rarely improve their behavior from criticism. This is especially true in Thailand, where criticism is viewed as impolite, causing a loss of face.

So, how does one go about improving the behavior of workers and students in Thailand, if you are to avoid criticism? The answer isn’t simply lots of “Dee Mak!” positive reinforcement. That by itself rarely works either — for it’s always competing with other behaviors and habits the Thai person feels good about doing.

Improvement is achieved by providing simple and clear explanations of the desired behavior, modeling this behavior yourself, and by being absolutely clear about the consequences of undesired behavior.

While this seems simple enough on the surface, it can be tricky to implement in the workplace and classroom.

For example, I once knew a Thai restaurant owner who had continuous problems training wait staff to the high level of service he wanted — for they all had no prior experience. I solved this problem for him by suggesting that he print out cards which had a list of about 10 things which every waitress/waiter had to do for every table of customers.

These tasks included things like: take drink order within 5 minutes of being seated; promote the daily special; return within 5 minutes after delivering any dish to check if customer is happy; take away empty dirty plates; check for empty drinks every 10 minutes, etc. etc.

Each item on the to-do list was accompanied with a check box. When he hired new wait staff, they would accompany him around for the first 3 days while he waited on tables, checking off on a card every time he did one of the things on the to-do list. Then for the next 3 days, he would accompany the new waiter/waitress around while he checked off each item on their to-do list (and gave well-earned positive reinforcement).

By the end of the week, he had a server who clearly understood what was expected of them, and who almost always turned out to be a good employee over the long term. To make sure the wait staff never forgot their to-do list, the card was attached to the inside cover of the book where they kept customer orders and bills.

Each new wait staff was placed on a one month probation period. They were told if they forgot 5 times to do anything on their to-do list during this probation period, they would be let go. After several years of using this system, he only had to do that once.

Improving Thai Student Behavior Without Criticism

Here is another example, but for the school setting. Students arriving late to class is a common practice at Thai universities, even on days when there are exams. This lateness often causes foreign lecturers, who value being on time, to lose their temper or show annoyance when a student comes strolling in 15 minutes late on exam day. This loss of temper benefits no one, and should always be avoided.

So, what should a teacher in Thailand do to encourage punctuality? It’s not enough to simply tell the class that you’ll penalize them for being late to take the test, because some may say they didn’t hear or understand you, while others will think they have a 5-10 minute window where they won’t be considered late (as other teachers may allow this).

Students might also think they can be a few minutes late if you are regularly late for class, or that if they are late the penalty will be small.
Therefore, to cure the habit of tardiness among students, a teacher in Thailand needs to:

1) Be on time themselves. (Modeling)

2) Detail precise penalties for lateness, including point deductions for the course, and significant point deductions on tests when late for exams. These penalties should be on the class syllabus.

3) Clearly define what late means. Be sure students understand that there is no difference if you are one minute late or 15 minutes late.

4) Have a NO exceptions late policy. Tell students no reasons for lateness will be accepted. Of course, you can accept lateness in certain individual cases, but this should never be part of the policy.

5) Get all students to verbally acknowledge they understand the lateness policy. “Khao jai ma?” “Khao jai!”

6) Remind students again of the late policy about 1 month after the start of class.

7) The day before an exam, remind students of the point penalty for being late.

8 ) If any students are late on exam day, show no anger or frustration, just smile at the late arrival and apply the point penalty to their exam.

9) After the test, show late students their exam score and how much it has been reduced because they were late. A 10% reduction is a common penalty.

Avoiding Criticism in Thai Culture — Thai teaching continues to improve with a balance of Thai virtues and Western learning techniques.

Successful Modeling in Thailand

Now, critics of this article — and there will be many! — will say that these are simple examples of behavioral improvement. What about more complex skill sets involving the larger issues of business, government, and schooling.

For these situations, modeling can again be used to great effectiveness, combined with competition.

Read the Full and Newly Edited Version of This Essay
in Why Thailand: Short Essays on Thai Culture, Language, and Life

Ajarn David

Ajarn at Sakon Nakhon Rajabhat University

Ajarn David is an educator, writer, and podcaster who has been working with Thai universities for over 20 years. He is the author of "Why Thailand" (Short Essays on Thai Culture, Language, and Life), "Life Lessons from Isaan" and the bilingual poetry collection "Poems from Sakhon". He lives with his Thai wife and daughters on a farm in Sakon Nakhon (Northeast Thailand).